Moneytrimony!

Hey Loves .. I'll be blogging on Moneytrimony! If there was ever a word like that.... lol

I once had a chat with a man who told me how much he honored his wife of  over 5 years.. I kept asking why he did and he said.. '' She would always hand over her  finance to  me at the end of the month after taking out her tithe...She is so Loyal! ''

Sounds pretty cool to me but what happens when you married to a man who has no regards for your loyalty? I've heard ladies say regarding their husband.... '' Hand over my finance ke? So he will spend it on other ladies? '' I'll rather save the money for my kids...'' Yeah!

Now we can as well refer back to the ripple effect of not raising sound-minded kids! Else why would a sound-minded man repay a woman's loyalty with distrust? 

Managing your finances as a couple is paramount to a healthy marriage as this is a major cause of rifts in most homes. Money can ruin your marriage if not properly managed! This has been proven over and over again..

While you dated each other, what were the qualities you both looked out for by the way? Communication is key in every marriage... Why is it so difficult talking about your finances? There are couples who have no idea of their individual earnings and that is worrisome because you may have based your marriage on deception.

There's also the issue of women who earn more than their husbands..It is always hard to be the one that is not earning the most money but it is particularly hard for most men.. 

But hey ladies... Be Nice!...Sometimes they may be putting in their best to get it all going for them and this may not have yielded any results at the time..... Please give them some credits!... 

Like I said in the previous post, you need to ask yourself why you got married to him in the first place....you need to remember where it all started... That would help you both pull through your financial situations and no one feels over burdened or pressured.

It's best you get married for the right reasons and to the right person for you because If all couples would learn to be sincere with their finances, I bet the world would be a better place for us all and kids would be born into very sunny, warm and love filled homes...

There are things that should be talked about before considering a life together.... Finances is one of them! Most young people leave this topic for the latter part of their marriage and this is totally wrong! Some even stay mute on this topic until the kids start coming in.... It should be discussed right before you even consider dating them... Yeah! 

1. Couples ought to work together in order to build the home. It's like having a task to carry out... You would fare better if you had a partner to help you out than if you had to do it all by yourself.. I would not allow my daughter to marry a man who is unwilling to earn a living! but also I would be more comfortable giving her out in marriage knowing that her hands are already getting busy! Money solves all problems so this implies that when you have no money to solve your immediate needs you would be unhappy... 

2. Talk about your finances.. Set the boundaries and rules! A MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOME...It's wrong to allow the woman do the things you should be doing.. She's a helpmate.... Men should learn to take up their  responsibilities.. '' A man who can not take care of members of his household is worse than an Infidel'' Do not bond yourself to a man who is not matured enough to handle his financial responsibilities ... Period! It's biblical..!

3.  Talk about your investments... It's wrong to make major decisions without caring about the feedback of your spouses.. Talk to them about your plans and you may both walk together to achieve them. 

4. Raise Joint funds together and save for rainy days.... Couples who learn to manage their finances together are always happier. 

5. Money manager... Let the best individual in the union manage the finance! There's always a spender and a saver..So which are you? Most men say..''my wife is a better manager'' if you think so then employ her service.... LET HER MANAGE YOUR FINANCE..

Marriage is a partnership of two selfless individuals.. When couples learn to be selfless they would develop and build marital and financial harmony.